• Stacey

Did I Make a Mistake?

As you can see, I haven’t posted in a while so I thought this season of my life would be better shared than talking about my victory on the other side.

I dropped the kids off to their other home, their dads house the other day. Watching them get out of the car and walk into their dads house brought this overwhelming sadness over me. I started thinking to myself, this is not supposed to be. My kids are not supposed to be dividing time between me and their dad, they’re not supposed to be living in two different homes, they’re not supposed to be products of divorce, but they are. To make matters worse, this process of starting over is literally one of the most challenging endeavors I’ve ever experienced in my life. It’s for the birds.

I’m sharing this with you because this is the part that will cause you to doubt yourself and if you’re not careful, you’ll give up and go back to.....

I didn’t foresee this transition taking so long or being so overwhelming. I’ve been busting my behind preparing to refinance and close on my house, still dealing with lawyers, closing/opening bank accounts, dividing pensions, working full time, committing to my new coaching business And being mom and dad half the week. The list seems to go on and on.

I want to encourage all of you as I encourage myself with this fact; with every transition comes uncertainty, doubt, fear, frustration, and even times of wanting to go back. Questions arise when you chart out a new course.

1. Why am I doing this?

2. Should I keep going?

3. Can I do this?

4. Should I go back?

Since I’m ending a relationship and I know this is where many women start second guessing themselves and go back, I want you to take a honest assessment of your situation and ask this question, why did I leave? What happened (what many things happened) that caused me to take a stand for myself and say I deserve more? I am worth more. I’m not tolerating anyone or anything compromising my values, my self worth or my being. Allow yourself to become one with this answer. After all, it was this answer that gave you the courage to take a stand for yourself. Bottom line is this, Keep going! I promise you, this process will get easier and easier if you stay on course.

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