Forgiveness is for YOU
I remember struggling with unforgiveness as I was trying to heal from my past wounds. I think the biggest part of my struggle came from the fact that I didn’t want to let my offender off the hook. I wanted them to pay for what they had done to me. I wanted them to hurt the way I had been hurt.
I remember thinking, if I forgive them, I would be giving them a “get out of jail free card” like the Monopoly game, lol. I thought I was saying to them and to everyone else that what they did was ok.
It wasn’t until I learned that FORGIVENESS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH THE OTHER PERSON. They don’t even need to know that I’m forgiving them. This is especially true if the offender has past away. They still need to be forgiven because I AM STILL LIVING!
The first time I heard someone say, holding onto unforgiveness is like drinking poison, thinking you’re hurting the other person, it stopped me in my tracks because I felt like I had been drinking poison. The angrier I became, the more health issues and turmoil I began to experience in my body. I used to suffer from TMJ where I had to wear bite splints to bed at night to keep from grinding my teeth. I suffered from migraines. For years, I couldn’t drive at night because I just couldn’t see. Found out when you hold onto that level of anger blood vessels begin to constrict even the ones in your eyes. I remember feeling like my blood boiled. I later found out, acid thoughts produce more acid in the body. Til this very day I still suffer from severe acid reflux. (I am decreeing this is about to change because I’ve released)
These are just a fourth of the things I’ve experienced because of holding onto unforgiveness for so long. The ladies in the GETTING BACK TO ME WORKSHOP got to heat and experience the rest. So when I say, I completely understood that I was definitely DRINKING POISON and that my offender(s) was free, going on and living the life they loved. I said wait a minute. Something is wrong with this picture. I cried out to God asking Him to show me how to let go.
You know what He did? He completely removed the other person from the equation. He showed me myself IN GREAT DETAIL. He gently whispered in my ear, “forgiveness is FOR YOU STACEY. It never has anything to do with the other person”. He began taking me on this journey of inner healing. A huge LOVE MYSELF DIET. What I begin to understand was that the more I loved myself and began to properly take care of my needs, I began to see my worth, my value and THIS BRAND NEW ME deserved more than the poison I had been drinking. I finally caught the revelation! I loved myself too much and deserved more than the little quick fix I was giving my emotions of being angry towards anyone. I learned how to RELEASE..... and it feels so good being free. Today I can honestly say I hate no one. I am not angry with anyone. The more love I have for myself, the easier it is for me to forgive. This is one of the quotes I have on my vision board by Martin Luther King Jr. “Let no man pull you low enough to hate them”. I now understand how powerful I am and I refuse to give anyone that much power over me anymore. ps. If you thought we were “beefin” YOU WIN.
Are you still holding onto the offense? Are you ready to declare that you’re worth more, you deserve to be free? I’m here for you as your spiritual coach.